Feasts, Seasons, Sacraments

Community Lent

One of the great things about Lent when I was growing up was that it was something the whole community did together. You could ask anyone, "What are you doing for Lent?" with the certainty that the other person would know what you were talking about. You observed Lent because you were part of the Catholic community–in fact it was something we did as a community.

Families are communities, too, so why not do Lent as a family? I’m not suggesting you all give up the same things, attend all the same services, or engage in the exact same practices. Rather, I’m suggesting that you raise Lent’s visibility in your home. Carol Daley of Monrovia, California describes steps she took with her CCD class that could easily be applied to your home.

"One year for my sixth grade CCD class I encouraged the children to give up something for Lent, and also to do some good deeds. Each week we’d review individually how everyone was doing.

"Children who initially wouldn’t commit to a sacrifice eventually came around to finding something to give up, so they also became involved. On Holy Saturday I surprised my students by purchasing and delivering to them the items they had given up for Lent. There was bubble gum, candy, potato chips, certificates for ice cream and hamburgers. Along with each of the items I included a note:

"How commendable it is that you have given up _____ for Lent. You should be proud for sticking to this commitment. While we go through life and do good, most of the time people are not going to recognize you for your good work. Quite often they will not even say thanks. But there is someone with us always, Jesus. He knows and appreciates every kind deed or act that we do in His name. And it was for us that He died on the cross so that we could share Paradise with Him forever. God bless you this Easter and continue to be an example of God’s love, shining through you."

Here are some ways to give Lent a family focus this year: 1. Tell your kids what you’re going to do as a Lenten practice. Invite them to share their own plans. 2. Take turns praying for a different family member every day or week of Lent. Put the designated person’s photo or name in a prominent spot. 3. Check in weekly with your progress. This isn’t a time to turn yourself in for shame or punishment, but to shore up one another’s spirits and determination. 4. Pick a visible sign of your progress, such as a donation bowl to collect money for a charity or the missions. 5. Plan a special celebration on Holy Saturday.

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